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Living life being phapulously me!!

Thank you, I think?? January 12, 2013

Have you ever been on the receiving end of what is supposed to be a compliment, but was actually a dressed up insult? Well I think I was on the receiving end of something similar the other day. I received a compliement on a pair of shoes I was wearing. I graciously thanked the person and their reply left me scratching my head. Here is the play by play.

Coworker: Love those shoes! Very cute.
Me: Thanks, they were a gift from the honey.
Coworker: Oh girl I’m so glad he stepped up your style because I was tired of seeing you dress like an old lady
Me: Um, thanks?? I happen to think I have style.
Coworker: Oh I’m sure but it just seems your style has stepped up since you met your honey. You don’t dress so conservative
Me: (Blank stare) I happen to love my style and I think it’s classic with a mix of eclectic. I just keep it simple at work.
Coworker: You would think that, but he has totally stepped up your game
Me: Thanks (walks off scratching my head thinking what just happened)

As I walked away I was thinking how my opinion of style and her opinion of my style were vastly different. I began to think what other areas of my life did I have an opinion that was vastly different from others. Normally I would obsess about what or how I could change my coworker’s mind, but I stopped. In that brief moment I was about to let someone’s opinion question how I viewed myself. I took a minute and did a quick inventory of me, confirmed that I loved everything about me and decided her opinion is just that her opinion.

Lesson of the day: Do not base the type of person you are off the opinions of others. Be happy with who, what and where you are in life. Do things you love, dress how you feel, and act how you please. Life is too short to spend it accommodating people you will never be able to please.

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Moments of Pleasure April 13, 2012

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Moments of Pleasure

baby coos

island sunsets

laughing children

long hugs

lazy days

walks in the park

making someones day with a kind thought and word

running in the rain

dancing to my own beat

pineapples

walking barefoot in the sand

a good love story

holding hands

looks of longing

falling asleep in the arms of the one you love

Smiles that tell me I’m loved

Letting people know they are appreciated by me

Just a few things that give me moments of pleasure

~P.H.A.P. ūüôā

 

Phenomenal Woman, yeah that’s me April 8, 2012

This is for any woman who¬†is down in the dumps or feeling uninspired.¬†¬† “Phenomenal Woman’¬† by Maya Angelou always reminds me of the strong, subtle, sexiness¬†of being a woman.¬†Any time¬†I read this I am reminded¬† how wonderful, regal, and such a¬†gift it is ¬†to be a woman.¬†It reminds me of the beauty and power of being me on the inside and out.¬† I hope this inspires someone and reminds them that yes they are phenomenal woman..just like me.

Phenomenal Woman

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies. I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size But when I start to tell them, They think I’m telling lies. I say, It’s in the reach of my arms The span of my hips, The stride of my step, The curl of my lips. I’m a woman Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, That’s me.


I walk into a room Just as cool as you please, And to a man, The fellows stand or Fall down on their knees. Then they swarm around me, A hive of honey bees. I say, It’s the fire in my eyes, And the flash of my teeth, The swing in my waist, And the joy in my feet. I’m a woman Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, That’s me.


Men themselves have wondered What they see in me. They try so much But they can’t touch My inner mystery. When I try to show them They say they still can’t see. I say, It’s in the arch of my back, The sun of my smile, The ride of my breasts, The grace of my style. I’m a woman
Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, That’s me.


Now you understand Just why my head’s not bowed. I don’t shout or jump about Or have to talk real loud. When you see me passing It ought to make you proud. I say, It’s in the click of my heels, The bend of my hair, the palm of my hand, The need of my care, ‘Cause I’m a woman Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, That’s me.

Maya Angelou

WOW!!¬† Such powerful words from such an inspirational woman.¬† Every time I read this I feel like a Warrior Princes!¬† ‘Cause I’m a woman Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, That’s me.