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The beauty of reflection December 31, 2012

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As we close out 2012, I took a moment to reflect on my  2012.  I can say that this year has been very much a rollercoaster of emotions.  I have experienced great joy and tremendous pain.  Both personal loss and personal gain. Some relationships blossomed while others were strained.  Despite it my love for family and the goodness in people remains. My perserverance was battle tested and sometimes wounded to the point of surrender.  However everytime I was ready to waive the right flag the right person, place, or thing would appear and assure me that I would make it through.  I have had the opportunity to learn a lot about myself. What my emotions are during my high times as well as low times.   I have learned who my inner circle consists of and I am okay with that.  I understand that just because you are a friend to some does not mean they are a friend back- and that was okay.  I understood where they were and chose to either meet them on their level or I left them alone.  I have learned to show more empathy without letting that blind me from the true person.  Overall I am very thankful for the growth and the tests.  Without them I would not have a story or testimony to share with others.  Be safe out there tonight and bring in 2013 with love, peace, and joy in you hearts!!

 

Good Steward October 21, 2012

I have done a lot of thinking about life and how in life we always seek and want more.  We search and work ourselves to near exhausting in pursuit of the next best thing we have to get.  Whether it’s your dream job, car, or house, it seems our mindset is always on more.  Don’t get me wrong there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting more.  However in that pursuit of more, do we take the time to appreciate what we have in our current state.  This got me to thinking of what it means to be a good steward.  All my life I was taught to take care and cherish what you have no matter how big or small because it was all a gift from God.  This included anything from the food we ate to the bus driver that used to take us to school.
Fast forward 20 years and sad to say that teaching is still with me but not exercised as much as it should.  There are many things I want for myself in life.  Yes I want more and I will admit that wanting more sometimes causes me to neglect to cherish the here and now.

During my hiatus I had time to really evaluate and found that I was not a very good steward of the things I am blessed with.  I found myself always focusing and praying for more but never really taking the time like I should to thank God for the here and now with the exception of my family and health.  I never took the time to be appreciative of the fact that during this tough time I have a job that I am able to go to everyday.  In fact whether it’s my dream job or not  I should still  smile when I go there because that is a blessing.  I have a car that is reliable and gets me anywhere I need to go.  But rather than being thankful that I do not have a car payment, I am lured by all the new gizmos and gadgets on the newer models.  So I neglect to keep my exterior washed and may go 100 or 200 miles over my normal oil change/maintenance.  Again not a good steward.
I had to sit and have a long conversation with God to get to the bottom of this and the answer was very simple and crystal clear.  In order to be blessed I have to be a good steward over the gifts I have now and also bless others with  my gifts.  Each and everything we have comes from a blessing and it is our duty to share and pass the blessings forward.  This will give God glory.  I had to take the focus off of me and what I thought I needed, and in turn manage what I have to the best of my ability to help others and in turn glorify God.

 

The Return October 17, 2012

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It has been a LONG time since I last posted.  Such is life.  These past few months have been very busy so I took a little hiatus from my writing.  During my time away life happened fast and furiously.  They were the best and worst of times, a myriad of emotions and maturity.  I had the opportunity to welcome new members into the family, care for recovering loved ones, and the emotional pain of saying goodbye to dearly departed loved ones.  Through it all, I was able to process each and every moment and take a lesson from it to apply to my everyday living.  I took that time to reflect, inspect, and learn so much about me and the relationships I have cultivated.  I am refreshed, renewed, and exhilarated.

Here we go!

 

Friendship May 20, 2012

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I came across this poem that perfectly sums up my friendships and thought I would share.  Hope you enjoy! 🙂

 

A friend is like a flower, a rose to be exact, Or maybe like a brand new gate that never comes unlatched.

A friend is like an owl, both beautiful and wise.

Or perhaps a friend is like a ghost, whose spirit never dies.

 A friend is like a heart that goes strong until the end.

 Where would we be in this world if we didn’t have a friend. – By Adrianne S

 

Choices April 22, 2012

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Today is a day of bleh…I am feeling all kinds of things and this poem by the great Nikki Giovvani sums my mood up perfectly.

CHOICES

If i can’t do what i want to do then my job is to not do what i don’t want to do

It’s not the same thing but it’s the best i can do

If i can’t have what i want . . . then my job is to want what i’ve got and be satisfied that at least there is something more to want

Since i can’t go where i need to go . . . then i must . . . go
where the signs point through always understanding parallel movement
isn’t lateral

When i can’t express what i really feel i practice feeling
what i can express and none of it is equal

I know but that’s why mankind alone among the animals learns to cry

Written by Nikki Giovanni

 

Where is the Love? April 17, 2012

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I came across this on one of my friends Facebook page and wanted to share. I really enjoyed the M&M analogy

“I don’t understand hate and prejudice just like I don’t understand why some people are biased against and pretend to not like certain colors of M&Ms.  It’s all in your head because they all taste exactly the same; and regardless of the color of their shell, they all look just alike on the inside too.
 If you don’t believe either is true, wash the color off a pack before eating them or wear a blind fold while eating them and see if you know what color it is you are eating.  I’ll buy the M&Ms, set up the experiment and record the data for you. . .
  All people were created in God’s image. We all require a heart, a brain, lungs, blood,etc.  Inside we are pretty much all the same. If you don’t believe me ask a doctor.   Better yet, ask any surgeon if he/she is handed a heart to put into a transplant recipient if he/she can tell the color of the person it came from just by looking at it. . . 
Prejudice and bias start and cultivate in the mind.   If you don’t like a particular person because they did something to you, fine.   But how do you hate an entire subset of people who you don’t even know or have ever had any dealings with previously?  
 We have all had bad experiences with people of various backgrounds, but do we begin to hate all teachers, police officers, relatives, doctors, friends, classmates b/c of a bad experience with one?   So explain hating an even more generalized subset of people. . .
 People are like M&Ms. We were made to be a little soft and sweet on the inside and some of us can be nutty too, but we are born fundamentally all the same.   Remember, although our personalities may be Skittles, we as people are M&Ms.” ~Nyke
 

Moments of Pleasure April 13, 2012

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Moments of Pleasure

baby coos

island sunsets

laughing children

long hugs

lazy days

walks in the park

making someones day with a kind thought and word

running in the rain

dancing to my own beat

pineapples

walking barefoot in the sand

a good love story

holding hands

looks of longing

falling asleep in the arms of the one you love

Smiles that tell me I’m loved

Letting people know they are appreciated by me

Just a few things that give me moments of pleasure

~P.H.A.P. 🙂