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Are you toxic? January 24, 2013

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For the past few weeks or so I have been doing a study on toxic thoughts.  This  study is teaching me how we have to power to control what we chose to focus on.  Often it’s easy to find your thoughts centered around the unknown.  Our thoughts matter so much, and I am not sure we even realize the magnitude of what they can unfold in our lives.  When people say “it’s the thought that counts”  it is really a true statement because what you think oftentimes determines your outcome. 

 This is something I struggled and sometimes presently struggle with.  I have really taken to heart this study and am putting the suggested practices in place.  Or so I thought, until a very familiar situation presented itself to me and I found myself at a crossroad. My first thought was to be fearful and give into the toxic or negative thoughts. It made me realize how easy it is to jump back into old habits no matter how hard we try to move forward.  I was paralyzed for a moment getting ready to think the worst.  I had to pause, take a breath, and say a prayer to remind myself that even though it is so easy to contaminate my mind with toxic thoughts I will CHOOSE to think positively and believe the best result will occur. 

I had to ask myself what was I really afraid of?  I took a few minutes to take inventory of all the crazy madness that was going through my mind.  I wrote them down, and for each negative I wrote a scriptually based solution.  This made me feel  better about what I am facing.  It reminded me that no matter the situation, I will find contentment in the outcome.  I am still in the process of facing the unknown but felt compelled to share this. I will eventually share the full story about the situation because I know it can help someone. Just not ready yet.

Until the next time believing in the power of positive thoughts.   Focusing on these words “As a man thinketh in his heart so is he”

 

 

 

Good Steward October 21, 2012

I have done a lot of thinking about life and how in life we always seek and want more.  We search and work ourselves to near exhausting in pursuit of the next best thing we have to get.  Whether it’s your dream job, car, or house, it seems our mindset is always on more.  Don’t get me wrong there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting more.  However in that pursuit of more, do we take the time to appreciate what we have in our current state.  This got me to thinking of what it means to be a good steward.  All my life I was taught to take care and cherish what you have no matter how big or small because it was all a gift from God.  This included anything from the food we ate to the bus driver that used to take us to school.
Fast forward 20 years and sad to say that teaching is still with me but not exercised as much as it should.  There are many things I want for myself in life.  Yes I want more and I will admit that wanting more sometimes causes me to neglect to cherish the here and now.

During my hiatus I had time to really evaluate and found that I was not a very good steward of the things I am blessed with.  I found myself always focusing and praying for more but never really taking the time like I should to thank God for the here and now with the exception of my family and health.  I never took the time to be appreciative of the fact that during this tough time I have a job that I am able to go to everyday.  In fact whether it’s my dream job or not  I should still  smile when I go there because that is a blessing.  I have a car that is reliable and gets me anywhere I need to go.  But rather than being thankful that I do not have a car payment, I am lured by all the new gizmos and gadgets on the newer models.  So I neglect to keep my exterior washed and may go 100 or 200 miles over my normal oil change/maintenance.  Again not a good steward.
I had to sit and have a long conversation with God to get to the bottom of this and the answer was very simple and crystal clear.  In order to be blessed I have to be a good steward over the gifts I have now and also bless others with  my gifts.  Each and everything we have comes from a blessing and it is our duty to share and pass the blessings forward.  This will give God glory.  I had to take the focus off of me and what I thought I needed, and in turn manage what I have to the best of my ability to help others and in turn glorify God.

 

Mother’s Day May 11, 2012

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“Happy Mother’s Day” means more Than have a happy day. Within those words lie lots of things We never get to say.

It means I love you first of all, Then thanks for all you do. It means you mean a lot to me, And that I honor you.

But most of all, I guess it means That I am thinking of Your happiness on this, your day, With pleasure and with love.

Wishing all the mothers and soon to be mother’s a very Happy Mother’s Day!

 

Happiness May 7, 2012

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Happiness

Like the birds sing a sweet song.

 Like the rivers strum a lovely tune.

 Like the stars serenade the moon.

Like flowers look so pretty in June.

Like water makes violets grow.

Like winter brings flaky snow.

 This true and no jest. Love is the blueprint for happiness.

by Lamar Cole

 

Buyers Remorse? April 30, 2012

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You know the feeling you get after you made a splurge of a purchase.  You feel knots in your stomach and anxiety all over for doing something you know you should not have.  But you just had to have it.  You know what I’m talking about, that new Chanel bag or that new tech gadget.  Of course it was not a necessity, but something inside you just had to have it.  The rational side of you told yourself to run, not walk away as fast as you can.  However the impulsive side of you keeps you circling that prized possession you have to conquer.  You have an internal debate and impulse wins over and you make the purchase for this thing you absolutely do not need.  On the drive home it sinks in-buyers remorse.  You feel bad about being so impulsive and irresponsible.  You chastise yourself and promise to return the thing first thing tomorrow.

This got me to thinking if buyer’s remorse applied to more than purchases of the local fads.  Do we make impulsive decisions that impact us forever.  Do we impulsively jump into a relationship just to be in one, even though that little voice inside is saying slow down?  Only to find out a few weeks or months later that this person was not really what you expected.  The same can be applied to our professional lives.  Do you rush to take a job for the money even though deep inside you know it will not be fulfilling?  You then feel trapped or stuck because the big bucks you make have caused you to be more impulsive in purchasing things.  So you have to remain trapped to nurture your impulsive habits.

I have reflected over some of the decisions that I have made in my life.  I can honestly say the majority of the “good” outcomes came from well thought out decisions.  Most of my impulsive choices resulted in disastrous results.  Those disastrous results came with very valuable lessons that I have kept and applied to my life.  However as I get older and hopefully wiser, I am learning to keep a tight reign on the impulsive tug inside me.  But sometimes I wonder if the reign is so tight that I am becoming dull and boring.  Can you still be fun and rational?

 

Where is the Love? April 17, 2012

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I came across this on one of my friends Facebook page and wanted to share. I really enjoyed the M&M analogy

“I don’t understand hate and prejudice just like I don’t understand why some people are biased against and pretend to not like certain colors of M&Ms.  It’s all in your head because they all taste exactly the same; and regardless of the color of their shell, they all look just alike on the inside too.
 If you don’t believe either is true, wash the color off a pack before eating them or wear a blind fold while eating them and see if you know what color it is you are eating.  I’ll buy the M&Ms, set up the experiment and record the data for you. . .
  All people were created in God’s image. We all require a heart, a brain, lungs, blood,etc.  Inside we are pretty much all the same. If you don’t believe me ask a doctor.   Better yet, ask any surgeon if he/she is handed a heart to put into a transplant recipient if he/she can tell the color of the person it came from just by looking at it. . . 
Prejudice and bias start and cultivate in the mind.   If you don’t like a particular person because they did something to you, fine.   But how do you hate an entire subset of people who you don’t even know or have ever had any dealings with previously?  
 We have all had bad experiences with people of various backgrounds, but do we begin to hate all teachers, police officers, relatives, doctors, friends, classmates b/c of a bad experience with one?   So explain hating an even more generalized subset of people. . .
 People are like M&Ms. We were made to be a little soft and sweet on the inside and some of us can be nutty too, but we are born fundamentally all the same.   Remember, although our personalities may be Skittles, we as people are M&Ms.” ~Nyke
 

Moments of Pleasure April 13, 2012

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Moments of Pleasure

baby coos

island sunsets

laughing children

long hugs

lazy days

walks in the park

making someones day with a kind thought and word

running in the rain

dancing to my own beat

pineapples

walking barefoot in the sand

a good love story

holding hands

looks of longing

falling asleep in the arms of the one you love

Smiles that tell me I’m loved

Letting people know they are appreciated by me

Just a few things that give me moments of pleasure

~P.H.A.P. 🙂