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Buyers Remorse? April 30, 2012

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You know the feeling you get after you made a splurge of a purchase.  You feel knots in your stomach and anxiety all over for doing something you know you should not have.  But you just had to have it.  You know what I’m talking about, that new Chanel bag or that new tech gadget.  Of course it was not a necessity, but something inside you just had to have it.  The rational side of you told yourself to run, not walk away as fast as you can.  However the impulsive side of you keeps you circling that prized possession you have to conquer.  You have an internal debate and impulse wins over and you make the purchase for this thing you absolutely do not need.  On the drive home it sinks in-buyers remorse.  You feel bad about being so impulsive and irresponsible.  You chastise yourself and promise to return the thing first thing tomorrow.

This got me to thinking if buyer’s remorse applied to more than purchases of the local fads.  Do we make impulsive decisions that impact us forever.  Do we impulsively jump into a relationship just to be in one, even though that little voice inside is saying slow down?  Only to find out a few weeks or months later that this person was not really what you expected.  The same can be applied to our professional lives.  Do you rush to take a job for the money even though deep inside you know it will not be fulfilling?  You then feel trapped or stuck because the big bucks you make have caused you to be more impulsive in purchasing things.  So you have to remain trapped to nurture your impulsive habits.

I have reflected over some of the decisions that I have made in my life.  I can honestly say the majority of the “good” outcomes came from well thought out decisions.  Most of my impulsive choices resulted in disastrous results.  Those disastrous results came with very valuable lessons that I have kept and applied to my life.  However as I get older and hopefully wiser, I am learning to keep a tight reign on the impulsive tug inside me.  But sometimes I wonder if the reign is so tight that I am becoming dull and boring.  Can you still be fun and rational?

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The Beauty of a Woman April 29, 2012

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The Beauty of a Woman

The beauty of a woman
Is not in the  clothes she wears,
The figure that she carries,
Or the way she combs her hair.

The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes,
Because that is the doorway to her heart,
The place where love resides.
The beauty  of a woman is not in a facial mole
But true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul.

It is the caring that she lovingly gives,
The passion that she shows,
And the beauty of a woman
With passing years only grows!

– – – written by Teresa  Mahieu

 

Choices April 22, 2012

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Today is a day of bleh…I am feeling all kinds of things and this poem by the great Nikki Giovvani sums my mood up perfectly.

CHOICES

If i can’t do what i want to do then my job is to not do what i don’t want to do

It’s not the same thing but it’s the best i can do

If i can’t have what i want . . . then my job is to want what i’ve got and be satisfied that at least there is something more to want

Since i can’t go where i need to go . . . then i must . . . go
where the signs point through always understanding parallel movement
isn’t lateral

When i can’t express what i really feel i practice feeling
what i can express and none of it is equal

I know but that’s why mankind alone among the animals learns to cry

Written by Nikki Giovanni

 

Where is the Love? April 17, 2012

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I came across this on one of my friends Facebook page and wanted to share. I really enjoyed the M&M analogy

“I don’t understand hate and prejudice just like I don’t understand why some people are biased against and pretend to not like certain colors of M&Ms.  It’s all in your head because they all taste exactly the same; and regardless of the color of their shell, they all look just alike on the inside too.
 If you don’t believe either is true, wash the color off a pack before eating them or wear a blind fold while eating them and see if you know what color it is you are eating.  I’ll buy the M&Ms, set up the experiment and record the data for you. . .
  All people were created in God’s image. We all require a heart, a brain, lungs, blood,etc.  Inside we are pretty much all the same. If you don’t believe me ask a doctor.   Better yet, ask any surgeon if he/she is handed a heart to put into a transplant recipient if he/she can tell the color of the person it came from just by looking at it. . . 
Prejudice and bias start and cultivate in the mind.   If you don’t like a particular person because they did something to you, fine.   But how do you hate an entire subset of people who you don’t even know or have ever had any dealings with previously?  
 We have all had bad experiences with people of various backgrounds, but do we begin to hate all teachers, police officers, relatives, doctors, friends, classmates b/c of a bad experience with one?   So explain hating an even more generalized subset of people. . .
 People are like M&Ms. We were made to be a little soft and sweet on the inside and some of us can be nutty too, but we are born fundamentally all the same.   Remember, although our personalities may be Skittles, we as people are M&Ms.” ~Nyke
 

Moments of Pleasure April 13, 2012

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Moments of Pleasure

baby coos

island sunsets

laughing children

long hugs

lazy days

walks in the park

making someones day with a kind thought and word

running in the rain

dancing to my own beat

pineapples

walking barefoot in the sand

a good love story

holding hands

looks of longing

falling asleep in the arms of the one you love

Smiles that tell me I’m loved

Letting people know they are appreciated by me

Just a few things that give me moments of pleasure

~P.H.A.P. 🙂

 

Positive vs Negative April 11, 2012

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Did you know  Linguists say that in the English language approximately  1/3 are considered “positive” and the rest, “negative.”  WOW!  That is a true testament to how powerful words are to our thinking.  No wonder most people are always in a sour mood.  Words are very powerful! With only 1/3 positive, I can see how we can easily be influenced by negative thinking, after all that is according to the article I read the bulk of the English language.  Since there are indeed fewer positive words, they are, even more powerful.     My goal is to  learn a new positive word everyday!!  By learning positive words, my hope is to also train my mind to look for the positive in every situation. I encourage you to join me.

 

Phenomenal Woman, yeah that’s me April 8, 2012

This is for any woman who is down in the dumps or feeling uninspired.   “Phenomenal Woman’  by Maya Angelou always reminds me of the strong, subtle, sexiness of being a woman. Any time I read this I am reminded  how wonderful, regal, and such a gift it is  to be a woman. It reminds me of the beauty and power of being me on the inside and out.  I hope this inspires someone and reminds them that yes they are phenomenal woman..just like me.

Phenomenal Woman

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies. I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size But when I start to tell them, They think I’m telling lies. I say, It’s in the reach of my arms The span of my hips, The stride of my step, The curl of my lips. I’m a woman Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, That’s me.


I walk into a room Just as cool as you please, And to a man, The fellows stand or Fall down on their knees. Then they swarm around me, A hive of honey bees. I say, It’s the fire in my eyes, And the flash of my teeth, The swing in my waist, And the joy in my feet. I’m a woman Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, That’s me.


Men themselves have wondered What they see in me. They try so much But they can’t touch My inner mystery. When I try to show them They say they still can’t see. I say, It’s in the arch of my back, The sun of my smile, The ride of my breasts, The grace of my style. I’m a woman
Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, That’s me.


Now you understand Just why my head’s not bowed. I don’t shout or jump about Or have to talk real loud. When you see me passing It ought to make you proud. I say, It’s in the click of my heels, The bend of my hair, the palm of my hand, The need of my care, ‘Cause I’m a woman Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, That’s me.

Maya Angelou

WOW!!  Such powerful words from such an inspirational woman.  Every time I read this I feel like a Warrior Princes!  ‘Cause I’m a woman Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, That’s me.